To Date or Not To Date…Harley

October 5, 2008

I’m not sure where to start when it comes to the possibility of dating Harley.  He doesn’t have ALL of my ideal traits, not that I’ve even gotten around to listing them yet.  I’ll just report on how he fits into the things I am looking for that I have defined so far:

some level of success (I guess I should define this further…)

This is the #1 catch with Harley so far.  In the past, I have NEVER held a lack of formal education against a guy.  Not everyone has had the opportunities that I have had.  At least half the guys I’ve dated have NOT had college degrees.  At some point, I came to the conclusion that I should only date guys who have college degrees and/or are successful by some other standards.

Harley went to college, but did not finish.  He got married when he was young and had three kids.  He was married for 18 years (divorced two years ago) and his kids are just about grown (i.e., almost out of the house).  He never went back to school because he was too busy providing for his family. 

an ability to conform to social expectations(being weird is okay, as long as you can turn it off voluntarily)

Harley is really good at this.  His effusive behavior is a bit over the top at times when he’s goofing around, but on the turn of a dime he can go into serious, normal, professional mode.

English language mastery

Yep.

self-reflective

Seems like it, but I guess I don’t know that for sure.  I’ll have to report back at a later date.

accurate perception of self

So far, so good.  He’s not overly hard on himself and he doesn’t think he’s Gods gift to the world, either.  (Dave seemed to think he was more evolved than he actually was…he didn’t take responsibility for his behavior, but was quick to make comments about mine).

healthy and exercises regularly

It seems like he’s in pretty good shape, but I don’t know his exercise habits yet.

does not eat meat every day

I think he is a typical carnivore.  I even caught him going to McDonalds with his coworkers one day.  I’m just as likely to dine on jupiter as I am to dine at McDonalds. 

agreement on politics

He isn’t keeping up on politics as much as we are in my office, but seeing as how we are “inside the Beltway,” we have the standards set pretty damn high.  He does have a newspaper article about Obama on the wall by his desk, so that’s a good sign.

likes animals (and is not allergic to them)

He ALSO has three dogs.  Don’t see any problems there, unless his dogs like to eat cats and/or other people’s big dogs.  He definitely gets points for being an animal person.

positive role model for Baby Bear

He is a hard worker and completely dedicated to his family.  His mother was a social worker (as am I).  He is generous and claims to NEVER run out of patience with children or people with disabilities (I am IMpatient and would love to be with someone who is NOT like me!).

Baby Bear has already asked me if he’s married.  Baby Bear is my own (unpaid) professional matchmaker.  He said Harley would make the perfect dad because he has a “tight bike” (a.k.a. cool motorcycle).  I added, “And he has nitrus boosters in his car…and I didn’t even think they were real!”

I am soooo not into cars and all that crap, but Baby Bear is really into that stuff.  I think motorcycles are too dangerous, but if I could afford one, I would have one.  I am an adreneline junkie.

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Sorry, Honey, I’m a Vegetarian

October 4, 2008

I mentioned a few posts ago a guy I’ve been talking to named Grant.  He asked me for a full body pic.  I politely declined.  He asked again.  I told him I felt like a piece of meat.  He dropped it.

Meat224

I had high hopes, especially after our initial phone conversation.  Now that he’s made the request, he pretty much falls into the “you don’t exist yet” category.  Instead of fantasizing about how wonderful he might be, I’m assuming he is a total ding dong.  As with most guys, I’m letting him make the effort to contact me.  I’ve decided a guy has to be REALLY INTO ME and ready to pursue me (minus the stalking part) if he wants to date me.

I had high hopes, but at this point, the ball is totally in his court.  If he wants to make the effort, I’ll give him a chance.  I did respond to the email he sent me asking for a full body pic.  Apparently when I didn’t respond to the email, he texted me.  Since I lost my phone (story coming soon), I responded to the email.  I asked him if he was afraid I was a cow.  Then I proceeded to tell him my cell phone was MIA.  He responded asking when he could see me. 

This is a good sign!  I set a boundary and he respected it.

I told him I wasn’t sure.  I’m going to let him sweat for another day or two.