This is something I’ve struggled with for years…how should social class issues factor into who I date? In the past, I have usually dated guys in the lower middle class range. At some point, I began to suspect maybe THAT was my problem with men…I was setting my “standards” too low.
So, for the past few years, I’ve made an effort to date a wider variety of guys. I’ve leaned away from dating guys with “some college” towards dating guys with advanced degrees. But life isn’t that simple. There are so many other factors that go into the dating equation that changing one component of the equation doesn’t seem to make an obvious difference in the quality of my dating life.
The question has now come back to me, full circle…who am I to require a certain level of education or social standing in a potential partner? Had I been born into different circumstances, my life would have turned out differently. I am hesitant to judge anyones value based on arguably elitist standards, which brings me to another point…what is my social class?
I have experienced, in one way, shape, or form, every social class except for the “underclass” and the old-wealth capitalist class.
In walks Harley. I smile.
I guess he falls into the “lower-middle class.” He’s into muscle cars and has the fastest “street legal” bike available. He has a souped up Mustang with nitrous boosters in the trunk. He is stocky and muscular. He has tattoos. When he gave me a ride home last night, he was telling me to give my mom his number in case she needs anything while she’s in town taking care of my son while I’m in California. I looked over at him while he’s saying this and noticed he has a baseball cap on backwards.
Harley, like me, is a walking contradiction. He’s ghetto, but not all the time. He’s funny. Sometimes he’s serious. He cries when he watches the Biggest Loser. He’s not white enough to be white. He’s not black enough to be black. He’s an entertainer; he’s the life of the party…he does this because he wants people to have fun, not because he needs to be the center of attention. He loves his mom. He loves his kids. He works hard. He exudes warmth.