Social Skills, or Lack Thereof

Did I mention I’m socially clueless, especially when it comes to men?  Contrary to popular belief, social skills don’t always come naturally.  At least for some people, they are a set of skills that are learned.  I’ve always had a hard time with social skills.  Although my friends don’t believe me, I swear I really am a shy person. 

 

I don’t feel comfortable around new people, especially if I don’t know anything about them, like how they see the world.  I need to understand your social and political ideology before I can have a conversation with you.  I’m serious.  Unless you’re a freaky liberal and/or really smart, I can’t have a conversation with you.  I don’t know how to talk to ‘normal people.’

 

Normal people talk about the weather, sports, what they did last weekend, and what they are doing next weekend.  They share stories about the times they got pulled over by the police and the times they came oh so close to missing their plane.  Oh, the drama!  I’d rather stab myself with a fork than listen to small talk for more than 30 seconds.

 

My social skills are better when I am fulfilling a role of some sort.  For example, in the workplace, I need to work with Jack and Jill to carry the water down the hill.  Or I need to go to a conference and staff the tacky conference booth.  Last time I did that, I got a job offer from the person at the next booth, quit my job, and moved to a different state.  I can be smooth at times.

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One Response to Social Skills, or Lack Thereof

  1. Helene says:

    I can totally relate with you. I personally claim my shyness but most of my close friends wouldn’t believe me. Its because I’m normally shy with new people or people I am not close to. But when we get to be friends, I become comfortable with them and can socialize with them better. I think its important that we develop more social skills because it can really help us succeed in our goals or just like your experience, find better jobs or opportunities. I am actually trying to develop more social skills.

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